“My observation of modern Christianity is that most of us tend to base our relationship with God on our performance instead of on His grace. If we’ve performed well, whatever ‘well’ is in our opinion, then we expect God to bless us. If we haven’t done so well, then our expectations are reduced accordingly.
In this sense we live by works rather than by grace. We are saved by grace, we acknowledge that, but we are living by the sweat of our own performance. We give lip service to the grace of God but our unspoken motto is ‘God helps those who help themselves.’
The realization that my daily relationship with God is based on the infinite merit of Christ instead of my own performance is a very freeing and joyous experience.” -Jerry Bridges, Transforming Grace